{"id":20583,"date":"2023-01-18T10:59:00","date_gmt":"2023-01-18T09:59:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/about-shame\/"},"modified":"2023-12-19T19:43:20","modified_gmt":"2023-12-19T18:43:20","slug":"om-skam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/om-skam\/","title":{"rendered":"6-15 Om skam"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"20583\" class=\"elementor elementor-20583 elementor-2646\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-71f5eadf e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"71f5eadf\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;jet_parallax_layout_list&quot;:[]}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-61c97b8a elementor-pagination-position-inside elementor-widget elementor-widget-image-carousel\" data-id=\"61c97b8a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;slides_to_show&quot;:&quot;1&quot;,&quot;navigation&quot;:&quot;dots&quot;,&quot;pause_on_hover&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;pause_on_interaction&quot;:&quot;no&quot;,&quot;effect&quot;:&quot;fade&quot;,&quot;autoplay_speed&quot;:7500,&quot;autoplay&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;infinite&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;speed&quot;:500}\" data-widget_type=\"image-carousel.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-image-carousel-wrapper swiper\" role=\"region\" aria-roledescription=\"carousel\" aria-label=\"Billedkarussel\" dir=\"ltr\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-image-carousel swiper-wrapper\" aria-live=\"off\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"swiper-slide\" role=\"group\" aria-roledescription=\"slide\" aria-label=\"1 of 5\"><figure class=\"swiper-slide-inner\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"swiper-slide-image\" src=\"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/6-15-01-About-shame-1.jpg\" alt=\"6-15-01-About-shame\" \/><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"swiper-slide\" role=\"group\" aria-roledescription=\"slide\" aria-label=\"2 of 5\"><figure class=\"swiper-slide-inner\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"swiper-slide-image\" src=\"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/6-15-02-About-shame.jpg\" alt=\"6-15-02 About shame\" \/><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"swiper-slide\" role=\"group\" aria-roledescription=\"slide\" aria-label=\"3 of 5\"><figure class=\"swiper-slide-inner\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"swiper-slide-image\" src=\"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/6-15-03-About-shame.jpg\" alt=\"6-15-03 About shame\" \/><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"swiper-slide\" role=\"group\" aria-roledescription=\"slide\" aria-label=\"4 of 5\"><figure class=\"swiper-slide-inner\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"swiper-slide-image\" src=\"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/6-15-04-About-shame.jpg\" alt=\"6-15-04 About shame\" \/><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"swiper-slide\" role=\"group\" aria-roledescription=\"slide\" aria-label=\"5 of 5\"><figure class=\"swiper-slide-inner\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"swiper-slide-image\" src=\"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/6-15-05-About-shame.jpg\" alt=\"6-15-05 About shame\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"swiper-pagination\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-520b7c23 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"520b7c23\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Kongen og dronningen ligger i sengen. Hun er ked af det og skammer sig. Han sp\u00f8rger ind og f\u00e5r hende til at dele skammen med ham. Hun fort\u00e6ller, at det er skamfuldt at f\u00f8le lyst. Han sp\u00f8rger ind til, hvorn\u00e5r den f\u00f8lelse opstod i hende. Hun husker en konkret episode fra barndommen, hvor hendes mor sagde, at det var forkert at f\u00f8le lyst. At gud kunne se hende hele tiden. Kongen taler med hende om det, og hun indser, at det er naturligt at f\u00f8le lyst. De kysser, krammer og er sammen.<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-00be656 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"00be656\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;jet_parallax_layout_list&quot;:[]}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d2384e2 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"d2384e2\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;jet_parallax_layout_list&quot;:[]}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3810f5f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3810f5f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">\"Der var engang en mand, der vidste, at skam opl\u00f8ses gennem k\u00e6rlighed og itales\u00e6ttelse.\"<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3566012 p1head elementor-widget elementor-widget-jet-headline\" data-id=\"3566012\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"jet-headline.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"jet-headline jet-headline--direction-horizontal\"><span class=\"jet-headline__part jet-headline__first\"><span class=\"jet-headline__label\">Id\u00e9en<\/span><\/span><span class=\"jet-headline__space\">&nbsp;<\/span><span class=\"jet-headline__part jet-headline__second\"><span class=\"jet-headline__label\">om skam<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-beff831 p1divider elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"beff831\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a9c7164 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a9c7164\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><em>Skam \u2013 ubehagelig f\u00f8lelse af ydmygelse, skyld eller flovhed, fremkaldt af bevidstheden om at have gjort noget forkert eller pinligt.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>F\u00f8lelsen af skam, som er den modsatte f\u00f8lelse af stolthed, er en f\u00f8lelsesm\u00e6ssig reaktion, der er funderet i den tidlige barndom omkring to\u00e5rsalderen. F\u00f8lelsen opst\u00e5r, n\u00e5r vi f\u00f8ler, at vi ikke lever op til omverdenens krav og forventninger. Som voksne kan vi f\u00f8le skam, og p\u00e5 et psykisk plan regredierer vi til den tidlige barndom, n\u00e5r vores forsvar ikke bevidst er ajourf\u00f8rt. Vi kommer m\u00e5ske i en uventet situation, hvor vi ikke evner at h\u00e5ndtere vores f\u00f8lelser og adf\u00e6rd. Skamf\u00f8lelsen er et produkt af vores manglende psykologiske indsigt og konkrete refleksion over det, vi befinder os i lige der og i en given situation.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0adba23 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"0adba23\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;jet_parallax_layout_list&quot;:[]}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a837c01 elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-19302 elementor-global-9175 elementor-widget-table-of-contents\" data-id=\"a837c01\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" 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to\u00e5rsalderen. F\u00f8lelsen opst\u00e5r, n\u00e5r vi f\u00f8ler, at vi ikke lever op til omverdenens krav og forventninger. Som voksne kan vi f\u00f8le skam, og p\u00e5 et psykisk plan regredierer vi til den tidlige barndom, n\u00e5r vores forsvar ikke bevidst er ajourf\u00f8rt. Vi kommer m\u00e5ske i en uventet situation, hvor vi ikke evner at h\u00e5ndtere vores f\u00f8lelser og adf\u00e6rd. Skamf\u00f8lelsen er et produkt af vores manglende psykologiske indsigt og konkrete refleksion over det, vi befinder os i lige der og i en given situation.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":28,"featured_media":8052,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_surecart_dashboard_logo_width":"180px","_surecart_dashboard_show_logo":true,"_surecart_dashboard_navigation_orders":true,"_surecart_dashboard_navigation_invoices":true,"_surecart_dashboard_navigation_subscriptions":true,"_surecart_dashboard_navigation_downloads":true,"_surecart_dashboard_navigation_billing":true,"_surecart_dashboard_navigation_account":true,"wprm-recipe-roundup-name":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-description":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2142],"tags":[2461],"display-group":[],"class_list":["post-20583","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-goer-verden-smukkere-6","tag-create-a-better-world-6-da"],"blocksy_meta":{"styles_descriptor":{"styles":{"desktop":"","tablet":"","mobile":""},"google_fonts":[],"version":6}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20583","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/28"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20583"}],"version-history":[{"count":18,"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20583\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30501,"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20583\/revisions\/30501"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8052"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20583"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20583"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20583"},{"taxonomy":"display-group","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shapeyourfuturelife.org\/da\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/display-group?post=20583"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}