The queen makes a highly theatrical display of suffering. When the princess shows that she is suffering, the impression is reinforced within the queen. The queen has a great deal of rage inside her. When she sees the princess look slightly angry, the queen perceives her as being furious. The queen laughs hysterically. When the princess laughs, the queen perceives her as laughing hysterically. The queen scolds the princess and calls her a drama queen.
''Once upon a time, there was a woman who did not know that what she was saying about others represented something inside herself.''
The notion of projections
All the external phenomena that surround us are represented inside us as objects. These objects may be things, concepts, words, emotions – anything that we can sense and describe. For example, if you close your eyes right now, you will still be able to describe the room you are sitting in. You can describe the chair you are sitting in, and you can describe people you know, even though they are not physically present right now. The object is represented inside you. If we are not consciously aware and take ownership of our own share of the objects’ representation within us, our internal objects will influence our perception of the external objects. This leads to an unhelpful reinforcement (and distortion) of the perceived object – that is why you see ‘the speck that is in your brother’s eye but do not notice the log that is in your own eye’.