The prince kisses the princess. He proposes to her. The wizard helps them solves their problems. They both do what is significant for building a good life together, and they live happily ever after.
"Once upon a time, there was a woman who knew that feedback is most likely to be helpful when it is wanted."
The notion of feedback
Feedback (comments, reactions, responses) is a powerful instrument that we are all influenced by, to varying degrees.
Feedback is often provided without a deliberate and constructive purpose. Often, it is also negative, perhaps even in the form of negative projective feedback (feedback that inadvertently says more about the sender than it does about the receiver). That sort of feedback is demotivating and dispiriting for the targeted person. By contrast, unsolicited positive feedback from someone we respect has a motivating and encouraging effect and helps us express our vitality. Negative feedback is destructive and demotivating. Forget about the old didactic, manipulative model of ‘praise, criticism, praise’. Instead, offer contact, genuine interest and care. And praise, praise, praise!