The noblewoman imagines her fiancé proposing to her and buying her flowers. She imagines the carriage ride after the wedding and envisions the two of them growing old together, their children gathered round. The nobleman is happy and wants to give her something: a bottle of wine that they can share.

''Once upon a time, there was a disappointed woman who never explicitly stated her expectations.''

The notion of expectations

The only thing we can expect with any certainty is death.

Everything else is uncertain. Expectations arise inside us constantly, mainly in the form of vague, unarticulated needs, which may be current, but which may also stem from specific past wants/deficiency needs that remained unfulfilled and continue to feel current and urgent.

Having our expectations met requires contact and visibility; contact with the need and the person it is associated with; visibility of the need and dialogue about how it can be fulfilled.

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