A nobleman needs to be seen for who he is. He shares something deeply personal with the queen, who does not react. He expresses himself more and more explicitly, and still, she does not react. Only once he turns his back to her, seething with pent-up anger, does she react with a sympathetic smile and a superficial remark. She did not see him.
''Once upon a time, there was a dissatisfied man who realized the importance of doing what needed to be done but lacked being seen for who he was.''
The notion of being seen
We all have a fundamental need to be seen, contained and accepted as we are. When that need is met, the tension is reduced, and we can turn our attention to something else. People who are especially good at seeing other people are able to read between the lines and to communicate their observations with empathy and kindness, which in turn contributes to building trust and good relations.
What does it take for us to be seen on an emotional level? Above all, there has to be a natural interest and an environment that makes us want to reveal who we are, as persons. The next step is to dare reveal who we are. The final step is that the person who sees us responds by showing and, perhaps, explaining what he or she sees.